Can Our Brains Be Trusted? The Answer Might Surprise You.

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Do you believe your brains can be trusted?

Without even thinking, you’ve probably already answered yes.

The brain directs the body in all its functions. It directs you in everyday life. So, it must be right about all the other things you know and believe to be true, right?

Maybe.

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Psychologist Leon Festinger published research in 1957 regarding cognitive dissonance, noting that when there is an inconsistency between attitudes or behaviors, something must change to eliminate the uneasiness we experience.

Conflicting attitudes, beliefs or behaviors produce a feeling of mental discomfort.

Our brains don’t like discomfort and attempt to resolve the dissonance (or reconcile it) to reduce the discomfort and restore balance.


A Classic Example of Cognitive Dissonance

Aesop’s Fable, “The Fox and the Grapes” illustrates cognitive dissonance in a simple way:

A fox sees grapes hanging high up in a vineyard and wants to eat them.
When he can’t think of a way to get them, he decides the grapes are probably not worth eating,
justifying it by thinking the grapes aren’t ripe or they’re probably sour.

In psychologist Festinger’s research, as a participant observer studying a cult, he witnessed members who believed the earth was going to be destroyed by a flood on December 21st, 1954. When that didn’t happen, Festinger observed the cult members, particularly the dedicated ones who had given up their homes and jobs to work for the cult.

While fringe members were more inclined to recognize that they had made fools of themselves, the seriously committed cult members were more likely to re-interpret the evidence to show that they were right and that the earth was not destroyed because of the faithfulness of cult members.

Because it is mentally uncomfortable to experience dissonance, the brain seeks a way to feel better.

Our ability to reconcile and resolve this dissonance is based on:

  • Our resistance to change
  • How much we identify with the belief
  • The satisfaction we get from the behavior
  • How much change or loss it will cost to change the behavior

When dissonance is present, in addition to trying to reduce it, the person will actively avoid situations and information which would likely increase the dissonance.”
-Leon Festinger

How does all of this apply to our everyday lives and what we can learn?

I Stopped Working – But My Brain Thought Otherwise

brains, anxietyI wanted to stop working in the occupation I worked in my entire adult life. I wanted to become a person who no longer had the distractions and responsibilities of a company and its employees – in order to become a person who focused more on home, family, marriage and pursuing a new dream.

I stopped working. I woke up one morning and didn’t need to go to work.

But I experienced anxiety.

Although I had physically stopped working, my brain had not yet adjusted to my new situation. I was a foreigner in my own body. Throughout the day I asked myself who I was.

I had what I wanted. But my brain was questioning me. This wasn’t me … the person I was for so many years…

Now what?

This lasted over a month. I was lost. Like a person who retires, their long-established work pattern is discontinued, yet their brain is still in the day-to-day work routine.

Some retirees return to work to resolve the dissonance, thinking that the uneasiness and mental tension indicated they should not have retired in the first place.

How can we resolve this?

Our brains need to either change the behavior or action

OR

The brain will rationalize our choices in a variety of ways

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In 2014, there was a study done on college students who did not want their tuition increased. The college required students to write a paper on why tuition should be increased.

Following the study, most of the students had changed their minds after writing their papers in support of tuition increases. They also didn’t relate or identify with the person they were before they wrote their paper. The study suggests that we skew our own memories while our brains work through the process of resolving these competing beliefs or attitudes.

For me, after being gone from my company for nearly three months, I finally become the person who doesn’t work there anymore.

Understand & Benefit from Cognitive Dissonance

When we begin to understand what our brain is doing and why, it becomes a powerful skill that can serve us well. It will allow us to grow our minds and expand our capabilities.

Ask yourself if your beliefs and actions are based on evidence – or are you allowing your brain to play tricks on you?

The brain wants to reconcile and ease the dissonance discomfort. The brain will:change

  1. Change the thought. Ask whether it is true. For instance, can you stop working and become a person who starts a new business, even when you have worked your entire life? Ask whether it is serving you to believe that thought.
  2. Change the behavior. Seems simple enough, right? It can be. Yet, some behaviors (think: quitting smoking) can be more challenging to change.
  3. Add new thoughts, then rationalize. For instance, “I know smoking is bad, I’m not going to quit, but at least I eat really healthy and exercise.” Our brains would prefer that everything fall into the GOOD or BAD categories or the RIGHT and WRONG categories. Most things are a little bit right and a little bit wrong.
  4. Trivialize the belief, minimize the effects. For example, “Getting the promotion I want will just bring more responsibility I don’t need right now anyway.” OR “It’s not the best time to make a change. It’s safer to stay where I am right now.”

 

“There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”
-William Shakespeare

When we can remind ourselves of that, it can open our minds and allow us to be more compassionate and peaceful in our brains.

Dissonance is What Nudges Us to Grow

Dissonance, this mental uneasiness, is what nudges us to grow. While it may be uncomfortable, it has huge benefits and can be a powerful tool.

Your brain is not going to stop doing this for you – and that’s a good thing. You want to bring awareness as you allow the process to best serve you, to learn to be patient with your mind as it works through a resolution in its own time.

Watch it carefully and patiently. Call it into question when you see that it’s necessary.

Think about the sense of accomplishment and reward – like nothing you’ve ever felt – once you work through the process. And once you’ve become the next “version” of yourself, you can appreciate that person you were before is who brought you to where you are today.

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